Women are emotional beings that must be handled with care. For you to reach their hearts, you have to learn to be sweet and gentle. Here is a guide to help you know what they want to hear.
- ‘You look gorgeous!’
If one could list down three things that women can’t live without – they would probably be – good food, a wardrobe to die for and hearty compliments. So, don’t be stingy when it comes to wooing her with a shower of compliments. The more you give, the more you are likely to get in return. Say all that she has been dying to hear – whether it is about her looks, her attire, her figure, professionalism at work or her culinary skills.
Anudita Mishra, 34, a homemaker says, “I love to be showered with compliments as I think most women do. It gives my ego a boost when my hubby says, ‘This dress suits you’, or something like – ‘You look prettier than any of those ladies I know’ or saying, ‘I wonder how you look so sexy even in your 30s!’ It just makes me feel good about myself.”
Dr. Sushma Dayal, a clinical psychologist says, “Each of us like to receive compliments as it improves our self-image. It helps us to get rid of our inhibitions, acts as a motivation and helps us enhance our personality.”
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- ‘You are the first woman in my life’
Saying this would certainly assure your girl that you are a ‘one woman man’ and that you don’t keep hopping from one girlfriend to another. This is bound to put her on a pedestal and it will prove to be effective particularly in a long-term relationship. Be careful not to flatter her. Say this only when you mean it so that she never questions your loyalty.
Archana Nanda, a psychologist opines, “Telling a woman that she is the first person you have been so close to is sure to elevate her self-esteem and assure her of your faithfulness. But one shouldn’t do this just to just to flatter a woman, say it only when you mean it from the bottom of your heart. It will rip your relationship apart if she finds out that you kept her in the dark about your real emotions.”
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- ‘You are great in bed’
This is sure to make her feel like a sex goddess and sweep away all the inhibitions she had about her performance between the sheets. Praising her performance in bed and telling her that she is simply irresistible, is sure to set the momentum for a sizzling act later. The more you elevate and understand her sexuality, the more willing she will be to explore her wildest fantasies.
Don’t just be grateful for every little effort that she puts to turn you on – say it aloud!
Anant Joshi, 29, (name changed on request) says, “A few months ago I complimented my wife for her performance in bed and I think that was the greatest turn on for her since then. She’s now more experimental and also more open to my sexual advances. I think it’s not just men but women too who like to be appreciated for the efforts they make in the bedroom.”
Sunil Garg, an expert on sex-related issues states, “You are sure to boost to a woman’s sexuality when you tell her that she was super in the act. It will want her to explore more of herself and not just you. She will be able to connect with you in a sexual context.”
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- ‘You’ll make a great mother’
Most women look forward to having kids, but also tend to doubt themselves when it comes to being a good mother. Saying this is bound to put her on cloud nine – particularly when her man thinks she has all that it takes to be a nurturing mother. In a way, you’ll also be assuring her of your commitment and that you would like to bring up your kids with her. Ritu Jaiswal, 27, who got married a year ago, confesses, “It was my husband who made me comfortable with the idea of parenthood. I was always scared of having kids, but he made me feel at ease by assuring me that I’ll be a good mother and will do an excellent job as a parent. I am now expecting my first child.”
Dr. Sushma says: “It’s important to assure a woman that she will be a good mother and that she has qualities like compassion and endurance being a good parent. This will make her believe in herself and also prepare her for the new role”
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- ‘I am lucky to have you’
Tell her that she is the only one for you. If not her, you would probably have still been single. Women love to be with men who are amiable and there is no better way to tell her that you are a true gentleman than to thank her for being the person that she is. Tell her that your life is beautiful only because she is a part of it. Don’t be surprised if you find her blushing.
Amit Malhotra, 24, a sales executive says, “A year ago, I just told my girlfriend how special she is to me and how lucky I feel to have her in my life and she was thrilled to hear that. Since then I have realised how important it is to be expressive with women.”
Hear say: “Telling a woman that she is your lucky charm is a sure shot way to pamper her. It makes her feel that you have not just accepted her in your life, but you are also grateful to her for her presence. It is the most gratifying thought for a woman,” adds Manmeet.
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- ‘I love you’
Even though you have said it in every possible way – women place much more importance to these three magical words. So, make sure you say it at the right place and the right time, but when she is least expecting it. Wondering why? Who doesn’t love surprises? Especially if you are in a committed relationship, make sure you say it even more often.
“I was thrilled when my boyfriend recently proposed to me. Although I knew that he loves me right from the beginning, but I was just waiting for him to pop the question and say those three special words. I had been dying to hear it from him since a year. It was the most memorable moment of my life,” says Shruti, 23, a management student.
Hear say: “There’s nothing better that a woman would want to hear from her man. No matter how much you say it through your actions but most women like men who are expressive. It is very important to say what you feel to keep the romance alive. The more often you say, the better it is,” says Manmeet.